Thursday, November 15, 2012


So, I don't know where the past months have gone. I have not read blogs. I have not posted much. I have, frankly, been "into me." Do you do that? Do you just need some time to sit down and just think about your goals, life, and choices before and behind?

Before you decide "something is wrong," let me assure you, it is not. It is just where I happen to be right now.

You know, we start out life full of lofty goals and aspirations, only to find that, sometimes, our choices have left us so far off track that we hardly recognize how we got to where we are.... or even who the heck we are anymore... My life dream was to live on a farm, write, have about a football team of children, and a partner who would share my dreams. We would grow old surrounded by our children and grand children. Life would be quiet, orderly, and peaceful. I would teach fall and spring and write all summer long. Home would be a haven. It would be filled with laughter, love, and joy. My needs would be few; my pleasures many.


So, here I am, looking at my life and saying, "Um, can I have a redo, please?" I guess we all can look at certain places in our lives and say, "Yup; that's were I should have turned left. Or right... Or not at all.... "

But, it is what it is, right?

We did not change as we grew older;
we just became more clearly ourselves. 
~Lynn Hall
I read an interesting bit yesterday about "trying on" life as we think others live it. At first, I was amused by the article. You know, pick a person you admire and try life as you think they live it. I spent all afternoon thinking of who I would be... there are lots of folks I admire, after all.... But this morning I realized that I just wanted to be me without trying to think about how others see me. And, let's face it, we all do just that -- not let others see who we truly are... we always hold something back. Life is lived in third person...

Years ago, I had two tattoos done (yes, tattoos) -- one was a dragon turning back on itself which symbolizes personal power in the Oriental culture. It is in a place where no one ever would see it, because I felt that choice was personal and for me only. The other was a wing, on my heel and ankle, to remind me never to become earthbound again. To always dream and look up. To be authentic to myself and to remember that life is more than looking down. I always did think that the worse punishment from God for that originial sin was not only the separation from Him, but also the fact that human kind was doomed to always look down to make their way in the world. No looking up and dreaming, unless we stopped and did it On Purpose.

Not sure how to end this post. I guess it is a letter to myself more than anything. So, dear Martha, let go. Reach out. Look up. Dream. Be scared. Be angry. Be frank. There is more sand in the bottom of the hourglass than in the top. Quit being "earth bound" and remember how it felt to have wings. Use them.


  1. M'dear Matty,

    'Tis the season, I see, for more than just you to be doing some of this soul-searching. I'm hearing what you are saying, because I'm there too.

    Our past is our past.. and yes, there are things that haven't turned out as we'd hoped or planned, but thankfully, He is able to make all things work together for our good when we trust Him to do it.

    We stand on the cusp of the rest of our lives. I just read of a blogger/writer who said she was 80 years old and was planning to live till she was 114. Therefore, she was doing some of her own soul-searching as to what she wanted to do with the rest of her life, which when you do the math, she'd got another life time ahead of her to work on.

    So... let's do let go... and stand on the edge of... this new day....I see it as if we're on the edge of a cliff.... with the wind in our faces... and we're about to leap off (not in defeat) but in the joy of flying into the air like eagles.

    Don't eagles strip down their feathers every few years... but they come back renewed and restored.

    I did a google on eagle moulting... found this article that fits with what my heart was saying.

    Big hugs to you.... and lots of grace for this space in your life.


  2. PS. I miss your farm photo at the top. I always liked that pic!

  3. I have sort of dropped the ball on Blogging lately.. but seems I have been chasing my tail like crazy trying to get things done!... Love the post as usual... Still remember the day that God brought home that I was to Earthbound....Stuck in my brain for good..

  4. Dear Matty,

    It's good to "see" you again, tattoos and all! :) May your fondest dreams come true.



    p.s. Happy Thanksgiving, too!

  5. From my personal perspective Matty, you are right where you are meant to be and doing what you were meant to do: encouraging others. You do it well and I thank you!!!!

    ...I also love the Lynn Hall quote!


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